Thread: How can I overcome shyness?

How can I overcome shyness? Sometimes I get shy when going out to social places, especially if I am going alone.

Just practice talking to women who you aren't attracted to. That will help you learn to talk and not be shy.

Start interacting with your opposite sex or use social networking site and try to talk with them and possibly meet new ones. This will certainly help you to remove your shyness.

i think as with most cases your shyness is due to the fact that "what will people think????","what will they feel about me????"you should not think about them rather you should think about yourself and decided what do you think,meet your self expectations.you can also take a mirror and start practicing in front of that,try talking to yourself and start feeling the confidence,that will ultimately you will be bold enough.

ya, thats another good suggestion. I have known few people who have overcome their fear by practicing in front of mirror.

You can search some sites through google where it relates and how to overcome the problem such as this one:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2879_overcome-shyness.html

First of all, I think, you should know your self worth. You have to search yourself and figure out what makes you shy, in all aspects in your life. After knowing all these things, you need to take action and find solutions to your problem. I think listening to motivational audio books of John Maxwell can help you. Also, read books on how to boost yourself confidence.

Increase your self-esteem and confidence, it works. Been there, done that.

You can also overcome it by asking help from the people who are close to you, those who are concern about you. I am sure they will do anything just to help you because they love and value you. They also want you to improve.

I overcame my shyness by being more open to people. And I build up my self confidence by going out more.

That's good for you, rebster! If a person decides to overcome something then the action will just follow. It will all start from your self-determination.

One of the ways that I overcame my shyness was by going to places by myself, where nobody knew me, and experimenting.

At first, I felt weird, and probably looked and acted like a creep going up to girls and being awkward, but as I got a bit more experienced, I become less awkward. You develope a sense of "this is too much" "this is too strong,"
"this works, that doesnt"

In conclusion, all that experimentation that you are self concious about doesnt matter, BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW ANYBODY.

When desperate, have a friend introduce you to someone they know, this is very brazilian, and already, the girl will be on your side. if you feel terminally awkward, use the silver bullet phrase "sorry im so awkward, my gringo dating habits feel unnatural in this new land, Why dont you help me by teaching me about how brazilians date" if the girl is at all close to the average brazilian, she will immediately be charmed and start teaching you how to dance, how to move, how to say pickup lines, in short, flirting with you, and at that point, if you can't "move in for the kill" and get a kiss... try again with somebody else on another day, dont be discouraged!

"It's not me, it's you" works well on your selfesteem, too.
Just because you want to kiss someone, doesn't make you a sexual predator!

Fascinating advise itamenobra.
I should try to move in for the kill more often.. hehe

Overcoming shyness isn’t just something you should do for yourself, it’s also part of being a contributing member of society. When you have a thought or idea that deserves to be heard, you’re not only hurting yourself by keeping quiet, you’re hurting the people around you.

I think that a little shyness is good, because the shyness people are usually educated and polited people, but you can overcome it by trusting in you and always being yourself. Try to drink some beer or wine, too.

I think its bad to drink alcohol for overcoming your shyness. Alcohol impairs your judgment and numbs your sensibilities. Alcohol is for losers! There are better ways to deal with shyness, which is a lack of self-confidence.

I was a shy girl at teenage, but with experienced more and more embarrassing moment, I changed. Open minded and talkative. It's not about self confidence, just don't care how other sees you, you talk what you like and smile more, you will make a change.

ps: making change is a long and sometimes hard time, but don't give up you will see the rewards.